【彼前3:3-4】3你们不要以外面的辫头发、戴金饰、穿美衣为妆饰，4只要以里面存着长久温柔、安静的心为妆饰，这在神面前是极宝贵的。【1 Peter3:3-4】Your beauty should not come from outward adornment, such as elaborate hairstyles and the wearing of gold jewelry or fine clothes. Rather, it should be that of your inner self, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is of great worth in God’s sight.

家庭是我们事奉的第一个场所。经上说，做妻子的要顺服丈夫。这样，若有不信的丈夫，他们虽然不听道，却可以因妻子的品行被感化过来。The family is the first place where we serve. Scripture says that wives should submit to their husbands. In this way, if any husbands do not believe, they may be won over without words by the behavior of their wives. 姐妹们，不是用外面的辫头发、戴金饰、穿美衣为妆饰来吸引丈夫，而是以里面存着长久温柔、安静的心为妆饰，这种内在的品格，在神面前是极宝贵的。Sisters, do not let your adornment be outward—arranging the hair, wearing gold, or putting on fine apparel—but let it be the hidden person of the heart, with the incorruptible beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is very precious in the sight of God.

难道不修边幅就是属灵和敬虔？断乎不是。神看重我们内在的品格，里面的生命实质。Is it true that not adorning oneself outwardly is spiritual and godly? Certainly not. God values our inner character and the substance of our inner life. 当亚伯拉罕因惧怕，不敢说撒拉是他的妻子，撒拉被基拉耳王带走时，撒拉没有生气、恼恨，When Abraham, out of fear, did not dare to say that Sarah was his wife, and Sarah was taken by the king of Gerar, she did not become angry or resentful. 而是仰赖神，心里温柔、谦卑、顺服、没有怨言，神就为她发声，拯救她，高举她。这在神面前是极宝贵的。Instead, she trusted in God, maintaining a gentle, humble, and submissive heart without complaint. God spoke on her behalf, delivered her, and exalted her. This is very precious in the sight of God.

即使我们整容成最美的人，心里面的背逆、暴躁、怒气、骄傲、惧 怕…却是除不掉的，终究会暴露在人前。Even if we transform ourselves into the most beautiful person outwardly, the rebellion, temper, anger, pride, and fear within our hearts cannot be removed and will eventually be exposed before others. 无花果树的叶子遮不了罪的羞耻。美容、美衣并不能带来婚姻的长久和幸福。The fig leaves cannot cover the shame of sin. Beauty and fine clothing do not bring lasting joy or happiness in marriage. 教会中有许多的姐妹，也许我们在人前温柔安静，回到家中，却是河东狮吼，控制不住地唠叨、抱怨…There are many sisters in the church who may appear gentle and quiet before others, but when they return home, they roar like a lion, unable to control their nagging and complaining.

主啊，求你赦免我，没有真的信你的话，像撒拉一样，顺服、尊重丈夫，自己想作王，离弃了神，却做了愚妄妇人，拆毁了自己的家。Lord, forgive me for not truly believing Your word and for not being like Sarah, who submitted to and respected her husband. I desired to be the ruler, turned away from You, and became a foolish woman who tore down her own house. 圣灵，求你帮助我，在环境中，呼求圣灵来除去我的操纵、控制、不满…Holy Spirit, I ask for Your help to call upon You in my circumstances, to remove my desire to control, my dissatisfaction, and discontent. 使我因信得安息，在爱中说智慧温柔的话语，使身边不信主的家人，因我的改变也来归向你。Help me find rest through faith, speaking words of wisdom and gentleness in love, so that my unbelieving family members may also turn to You through the change in me.（付传道 Pastor Fu）